Thursday, February 19, 2015

Learning to say "No"

Does anyone else have a hard time saying "no" to people? In the past I've always struggled with it and as a result often found myself in over my head, over committed, overwhelmed, penniless and stressed beyond belief. Not only could I not say no, but I also felt like I always need to volunteer for everything. Need someone to organize the class scrapbook? I'll do it. Need someone to run and pick up flowers and a card? I'll get it. Need someone to water your plants while you are on vacation? Sure!

About 10 months ago, though, I tried putting the letters "n" and "o" together and some pretty amazing things started to happen. I stopped feeling overwhelmed. I stopped resenting people. I stopped biting off more than I could chew. I started having more time for things that I truly was interested in doing or was actually equipped to do. I started spending more time with my family and close friends, and even made some new friends along the way! And believe it or not, I am now in a position to actually help more people in more fulfilling ways than I did when I was trying to do it all. Crazy, right!?

Saying no to people doesn't have to involve rude gestures and remarks. It is important to be polite and sincere when saying no to people. I put together a list (above) of my go to phrases for letting people down kindly and respectfully. Keep in mind, there is a difference between saying no to things you are not interested in or do not have the time for and saying no to people who truly depend on you or need you for help. For example, if the PTO president asks you to bake three dozen cookies for the school bake sale and you do not have the time you can tell her no or offer to buy some instead (if it is in your budget). However, if your neighbor is at the ER all night with their sick little one you can (and should) offer to help out in any way you can. Saying "no" should never prevent you from giving your heart and hand to those in need whether it is family, a close friend, neighbors, colleagues or stranger.

I always felt like I couldn't say no to people. I think part of that is because so much of me wanted to be a people pleaser. I don't like having to let people down and I always thought I could do it all. I felt like I had to do it all. I had to prove something (not sure what) to everyone (not sure who). Reality check! I'm a working mama of two crazy kids...ain't nobody got time for all of that nonsense! Learning to say no has changed my life in so many ways. I am so much more comfortable now telling people no.

No, I'm sorry I can't make plans that night.

No, I'm not really interested in seeing that movie.

No thank you, I've already been there.

No, but it was nice of you to think of me!

I would like to, but I can't commit to that right now.

And now that I know how to say no, I can start saying "yes" to the things in life that really matter! I have more time to really help people in need. I can give more now with my time and money than I ever could before because I am making better choices about how I spend my time and money.

Yes, I would love to sit on the couch, drink wine, and catch up with you for the night.

Yes, I'd love to meet up with our kids and bake cookies.

Yes, I have time next weekend to help you with that if that still works for you.

Yes, sweet little loves of mine, let's build a fort and read stories all afternoon!

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Flower + Mermaid + Paris Party

While we continue to dig ourselves out of foot after foot of snowfall {enough already!} I'm choosing to ignore the forecast of even more snow {ugh!} and focus on sunny skies and warmer weather that will someday return to New England. I don't want to get too excited about summer just yet, so I'm concentrating my efforts instead on planning for Addie's 5th birthday party for early June. Yes folks, F-I-V-E. My baby girl is turning F-I-V-E. As in, I have to register her for Kindergarten next month, F-I-V-E. Cue the tears.

A few months ago {while we were busy planning for Mason's donut themed party} my sweet Addie Mae and I had a conversation that went a little like this:

A// "Mommy, for my next birthday party can I have a flower, mermaid, Paris party?"

Me// "Wouldn't you like to pick just one of those things for your next party?"

A// "Are you saying that you can't do all three?"

Me// "Challenge accepted little one, challenge accepted."
Addie's 5th Birthday

The wheels have been turning as I use every ounce of my creativity to come up with something to actually pull this party off. Addie and I have been looking through my pictures of Paris when I was younger and she loves the idea of creating a mini-Paris. I'm thinking a patisserie, cafĂ©, water fountain {gotta get the mermaids in the city somehow}, flower market, parfumerie, and of course a shoe store!

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Add Color + Fun To Your Home

I've been on the hunt for a new living room rug the last few months. We had this one from Target, which I loved, but after the stomach bug hit both kids in the same weekend we unfortunately had to retire it. I'll spare you the details but there wasn't a steam cleaning machine tough enough to tackle the damage that had been done to it!

Part of me wants to just buy the same rug again. The neutral color palette makes it easy to switch smaller household decor like pillows, vases, and picture frames around by the season without clashing. Plus, it is super affordable. . .and with two kids who are anything but clean, it's much less stressful! The other part of me, though, wants to find something fun and colorful to counter my neutral colored walls and couches. I'm sharing a few of my favorites today that I would love to someday see in my house. How cute are these rugs for a family room, nursery, playroom or dining room?

Add Color + Fun To Your Home

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Do you go bold with bright colors and patterns or play it safe with a more timeless and neutral rug? I think for the living room I'll end up chickening out and getting something similar (or the same) as I had before. But maybe I'll get something fun and cheery for an entry way or hallway upstairs! 

Sunday, February 1, 2015

Super Bowl XLIX

Cue the duck boats!

Just popping in real quick tonight for a little celebratory post! Sorry, I couldn't resist! That was one heck of a football game for fans all across Patriot Nation! I'm sure by now many have already ordered their Super Bowl XLIX commemorative gear. Not into t-shirts and baseball hats? No worries! You can support your team and still be stylish with these patriotic pieces:

Super Bowl Champs!

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 Go Patriots!